Sunflower Skins

July 27, 2015

Trauma Recovery vs. Trigger Warnings

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Trigger Warnings & Resilience

Resilience is a huge part of my life, throughout trauma and after. As an abused child, I had to rely on myself to survive, and as an adult, I find Trigger Warnings uninformed and harmful. They do disservice (dare I say injustice?) to my own inner resources or to my therapeutic work, as it seems counterproductive to stress reduction and downright cruel to my sense of self to be rendered equally helpless each time I’m confronted by a trauma reminder. In the Real World—whether at home, at school, or at the mall—trauma reminders can be everywhere and in everything; they are common-place, even boring items that I own and must use because they are part of life. Though their threat levels vary emotionally, they do not compromise my immediate safety and need no “warnings.” Because resilience is contextual, I must prepare for vulnerable situations of all kinds but particularly for when I actually find myself in a traumatic situation, like distressful news, an accident, or a crisis. I could hide forever, but then I wouldn’t even trust myself. Therefore, it remains my responsibility to build my capacity skills and nurture my inner safe space.

Case One: Reacting to an object and situation in private directly to trauma: my bed and sleep. Feeling comfortable in my own apartment, even in my own skin, tests me daily. To prepare for one of the most basic aspects of life, I have established a lengthy bedtime routine so that I am relaxed and able to rest. Some of my tools involve stretching to calming music; looking at art; deep breathing; containment exercises; lucid dreaming exercises; watching online animal cameras (including live streams of rhinos, bears, and puppies); taking medication; and taking a few minutes to engage both my tactile and visual senses with my plants, soft plush toys, and light-reflecting objects like crystals, geodes, and tumbled stones.

Case Two: Reacting to an object in public indirectly related to trauma: a stranger wearing the same style clothing as my abuser. I was unnerved and confused the first time I saw someone in an identical jacket as my abuser, but I was also semi-prepared, as being out of my home should always bring with it primitive awareness. Fight, Flight, or Freeze kicked in and I had to address the severity of the threat; turns out, none, as the person walked past without noticing me whatsoever. Suddenly the idea of an inanimate object “hurting” me seemed ludicrous, for the threat was only ever from the person behind the object. Furthermore, the jacket was such a common style at the time—same cut, colour, men’s, women’s—that I still see it on adults in my city, and now consider it regular positive exposure therapy for a more directly vulnerable situations.

Case Three: Reacting to something in public emotionally directly related to trauma: overhearing an argument or encountering disturbing material in class. In other words, I am having flashbacks and dissociating. Therapy and self-discipline comes into play now. First I must ground myself by stating what date it is, what city I’m in, where I am, and who I’m with. Then I must work on breathing exercises while assessing the threat level, that physically I am safe but feeling emotionally exposed. Addressing these feelings and actively attempting to engage more with my environment rather than withdrawing often brings context and relief. Occasionally I learn something in hindsight from the experience, like that I can relate to other people’s problems too instead of feeling all alone, or that I can appreciate a song for being a good song within itself (Formalism, which I will address further below). However, it is still within my agency to remove myself from situation if other methods do not work.

Case Four: Reacting to a crisis: being contacted by or seeing my abuser. This is a much more direct threat and, because I have built up my resilience, I am able to remain present and not dissociate, to not have a panic attack, and to have some measure of independence and control. This is what it means to not be a victim anymore.

Do you want to know what really invalidates my experiences? It isn’t when a university lets someone who disagrees with me speak, or when I read something upsetting that I’m not expecting. My experiences of both trauma and post-traumatic growth are impeded and invalidated by inaccurate mental health application, by censoring voices, and by denying me rational coping mechanisms like critical thinking, threat assessment, conversation and debate, and post-traumatic growth. Micromanaging and assuming you know what’s best for other people feels less like empathy and more like fascism, as all possible growth becomes restricted and stagnant, if not regressive. Furthermore, being reminded of my traumas doesn’t have to be a disturbing or debilitating experience; art has a beautiful quality of moving and empowering the viewer by allowing individual access and assessment on a very intimate level. If already labelled somehow, the viewer engages with the material based not on content but within a biased context and false narrative chosen by others, which is, in a way, quite re-victimizing. Where are trigger warning advocates’ respect for those who have lived through trauma and have the right to feel their own emotions and decisions? Unfortunately, politically-incorrect comedy, overt sexuality in both women and men, and violence of all kinds are censored and demonized rather than regarded as positive coping mechanisms and therapies. I feel extreme comfort when encountering very direct references to my experiences in TV shows like South Park, The Simpsons, Twin Peaks, and The X-Files, or from writers like Kathy Acker, Robert Cormier, Alan Moore, and Virginia Woolf because I can learn things about myself and the world through the frame of the show or book and come to new understandings of my past. Particularly I find ways to laugh and release grotesque tension and fear, or as Thomas Gray and Samuel Beckett might say, “laughing wild amid severest woe.” Part of resilience is integrity, or “the capacity to affirm the value of life in the face of death, to be reconciled with the finite limits of one’s own life and the tragic limitations of the human condition, and to accept these realities without despair” (Judith Herman, M.D., Trauma and Recovery, 1992). With such integrity and awareness, trauma survivors can achieve integration, meaning less dissociation, fragmentation, fear, and instability—healthy progress, I’d say.

Likewise in academia, for the engaged rather than offended student: the material, the professor, the classroom, the time spent studying in the library—indeed all aspects of university life—become a positive way to explore “dangerous” ideas. I myself have had bad encounters with professors, but accusing them across entire faculties of being insensitive to their students’ emotional needs is lazy and narcissistic. If you’re paying attention, professors already do provide context and engaging strategies for difficult material: lectures, classroom discussions, office hours, and the expectation that students at least be open to different modes of learning; rightly so, for after all, for what reason are you at university? One of my favourite topics from class was Formalism, as in, studying and appreciating art in and of itself, objectively, without author or reader context; learning this method was a relief and a pleasure, and I consider W.B. Yeats’ “Leda and the Swan” one of the greatest poems ever written, thanks to the controversial professor who taught it to me word by word. University is about dropping your guard and your former beliefs, even if just for a few moments; the degree should be symbolic of the work, knowledge, effort, and intellectual strife. Exploring different ideas and having your worldview challenged, especially for those who’ve experienced trauma, brings a catharsis social justice could never imagine.

Life is full of a lot more things than just sexual and physical assaults, and I would much rather be able to move freely than seek ways to constantly relive the worst parts of my life. I like that I’m responsible for my own safe spaces, which includes my apartment, my therapist’s office, and my inner resilience. Discovering personal coping mechanisms instead of relying on others to soften the world restores the control and self-worth I was denied as a child. I say this especially to young people struggling with trauma, identity, academics, or even just trying to understand everyday situations: would you rather find ways to be resilient in the face of trauma or find ways to be victimized by it? I will not encourage you to forego general self-care in lieu of a warning; if somebody once denied you the ability to make your own choices, as my parents once did to me, let us not deny ourselves such agency now. Take care of yourselves, as you—only you—have the ability to choose how to act and react in this world, and though it takes work, practice will bring some catharsis and personal empowerment.

December 15, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXXVI: How The Guam (Almost) Stole Christmas

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We’re taking a break from Bible Promises for a little while to work on other projects; please visit our Tumblr for daily silliness. Thanks for reading! We’ve had a lot of fun.

December 8, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXXV: The Exception that Breaks All the Rules

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“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matt. 6:33)

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December 1, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXXIV: La La La Can’t Hear You

34_lalala“Behold, the Lord’s hand is not shortened, that it cannot save; neither his ear heavy, that it cannot hear.” (Isa. 59:1)

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November 24, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXXIII: Deep in Thought I (don’t) Forgive Everyone

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“… Yet will he have compassion according to the multitude of his mercies.” (Lam. 3:32)

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November 17, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXXII: You Shall Not Pass On

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“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matt. 6:33)

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November 10, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXXI: Heavenly Musings

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“The grass withereth, the flower fadeth: but the word of our God shall stand forever.” (Isa. 40:8)

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November 3, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXX: Halloween Vacation

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October 27, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXIX: According to the Voices in Your Head

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“And this is the confidence that we have in Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, he hearteth us.” (1 John 5:14)

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October 20, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXVIII: If You Build It, He Will Do What He Always Does and Punish Innocent People

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“For as the heaven is high above the earth, so great is his mercy toward them that fear him.” (Ps. 103:11)

Support your local farms, shops, and community centers!

Guam’s outtake:

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October 13, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXVII: What Is Love? Daddy Don’t Hurt Me (No More)

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“They that sow in tears shall reap in joy.” (Ps. 126:5)

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October 6, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXVI: I Would Do Anything For Love (Even That)

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“Fear not… I am thy shield, and thy exceeding great reward.” (Gen. 15:1)

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September 29, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXV: No Way’s (anybody gonna survive in that) Ark

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“I will pour water upon him that is thirsty, and floods upon the dry ground.” (Isa 44:3)

Click here for our outtake (playin’ in the tub)!

Click here for last week’s episode, “Ask Questions, Tell Lies”!

And Guam made a special outtake:

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September 22, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXIV: Ask Questions, Tell Lies

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“And as we have borne the image of the earthy, we shall also bear the image of the heavenly.” (I Cor. 15:49)

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September 15, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXIII: The Cubs Are Alright

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“The young lions do lack, and suffer hunger: but they that seek the Lord shall not want any good thing.” (Ps. 34:10)

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September 8, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXII: How I Spent My Summer Vacation, or … From Something

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“The good thing about science is that it’s true whether or not you believe in it.” – Neil deGrasse Tyson

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September 3, 2013

“I’m a Scientist! I Don’t Think, I Observe!”

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September 1, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XXI: How I Spent My Summer Vacation, or Nothing…

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Click here for our outtakes, and here for pt. XX, “Tempting Faith”!

July 21, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XX: Tempting Faith

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“For in that He Himself hath suffered being tempted, He is able to succour them that are tempted.” (Heb. 2:18)

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We’re excited to announce that for August we’ll be taking a break from Bible Promises to put together the first 20 comics and outtakes into a book! Don’t worry, though, we’ll be back here in September with all new adventures, and in the meantime Guam will continue posting daily extras on Tumblr,

July 14, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XIX: Hope of Salvation

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“For God hath not appointed us to wrath, but to obtain salvation by our Lord Jesus Christ.” (1 Thess. 5:9)

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June 30, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XVII: Interpretations of Love

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“And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment.” (Phil. 1:19, KJV)

“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight.” (Phil. 1:19, NIV)

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June 23, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XVI: Sacrilidiot

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“Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.” (Ps. 119:165)

Click here for the outtake and here for pt. XV!

June 16, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, pt. XV: He Saves Me, He Saves Me Not

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“Hitherto hath the Lord helped us.” (I Samuel 7:12)

“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)

For more fun bedtime reading, check out II Kings 23-25 and Human Choice Cuts, as well as Guam’s outtake, The Love Song of Jesus H. Christ.

And click here for pt. XIV!

June 9, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, Pt. XIV: Some Dinos Are More Equal Than Others

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“No good thing will He withhold from them that walk uprightly.” (Psalms 84:11)

Last week’s episode is in two parts: Cross Examination and The Exodus; enjoy and happy blaspheming!

June 5, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, Pt. XIII.V: The Exodus

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Mid-week update!

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June 2, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, Pt. XIII: Cross Examination

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“The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” (James 5:16)

“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” (Psalms 46:1)

“The Lord shall preserve thee from all evil: He shall preserve thy soul.” (Psalms 121:7)

Click here for Pt. XII!

May 26, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, Pt. XII: A Crisis of Identity, or quaquaquaquackery

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“And ye shall seek Me, and find Me, when ye shall search for Me with all your heart.” (Jer. 29:13)

“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” (2 Tim 1:7)

“Call upon me in the day of trouble: I will deliver thee, and thou shalt glorify Me.” (Ps. 50:15)

“I will dwell in the midst of thee.” (Zech. 2:11)

“To him that overcometh will I give to eat of the hidden manna.” (Rev. 2:17)

Click here for Pt. XI!

May 19, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, Pt. XI: A Crisis of Faith, or quaquaquaqua

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“And ye shall seek Me, and find Me, when ye shall search for Me with all your heart.” (Jer. 29:13)

“The desire of the righteous shall be granted.” (Prov. 10:24)

“Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering (for he is faithful that promised.)” (Heb. 10:23)

“But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you.” (Acts 1:8)

“Great is thy faithfulness.” (Lam 3:23)

Click here for Pt. X!

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May 12, 2013

Guam’s Bible Promises, Pt. X: Genocidal Maniac

Genocidal_Maniac“He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler.” (Ps. 91:4)

“And the Lord shall help them, and deliver them: he shall deliver them from the wicked, and save them, because they trust in him.” (Ps. 37:40)

“A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee.” (Ps. 91:7)

Click here for Pt. IX!

May 5, 2013

Guam’s Behemoth’s Bible Promises, Pt. IX: The Origin of Reason

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“He that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.” (I John 5:18)

“For the Lord shall be thy confidence, and shall keep thy foot from being taken.” (Prov. 3:26)

“Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench the fiery darts of the wicked.” (Eph 6:16)

Click here for Pt. VIII!

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